The 3 Elements of Mental Toughness

Mental toughness is one of the largest differentiators between reaching your goals and living a life of regret.

But what is it? And how do you train yourself to get better at it?

Today, I’m going to answer those questions by telling you the 3 elements of mental toughness you need to succeed. (Inspired by my interview with Todd Durkin)

These are three things that are unfortunately uncommon amongst most people in the world. But among the elite and top one percenters, these are what they do daily.

1. Intensity = Magnitude

The first one is to understand that if you’re going to be successful in anything, the intensity of your discipline needs to match the magnitude of your dream. 

This is one of the biggest problems we have in the world today. We all have these dreams but have this weak level of discipline. 

That’s a recipe for failure!

You can’t have a huge dream, and very weak discipline. The intensity of your discipline needs to match the magnitude of your dream. 

Big goals are for people with big work habits. 

I’m all about dreaming big and achieving the impossible, but you better show up and put in the work. 

I’m not saying you must like it or that it’s fun. I’m certainly not saying it’s easy. I’m saying that’s what it takes. 

Another one of my sayings is, discipline becomes dormant in the absence of a dream. Part of increasing your discipline is increasing your dream. Because if you don’t have a clear dream, then there is no reason for you to make the sacrifice. 

The human brain left to its own default will naturally gravitate towards the path of least resistance. This is the “Escalator Mentality” where the title of my first book, Take the Stairs even comes from. 

So, one of the ways to increase your discipline is to increase the dream because then you go “Ah, now I have a reason to do it.” 

The next step is to make sure that the level of your discipline matches the magnitude of your dream. 

That is a connection that only ultra-performers understand. Most people will never get it. 

2. The Power of Community

The second element is the power of community. 

For example, if you don’t have the self discipline to get up and exercise and do what you need to do, then hire a trainer for no other reason than to make sure you show up. 

There is power in accountability. There is power in community. 

And if you’re not where you want to be in your business or achieving the things that you want to be achieving, one of the first things you have to do is look at who you’re spending your time with. 

Who are the people around you?

I can guarantee you that the people you’re spending time with are not people who have achieved those things. If you’re spending time with people who have achieved those things, you will become that person by default. Because you absorb their mindsets, tactics, beliefs, and relationships. 

You must curate your own community. You must hand select who you’re spending time with. 

And that’s another reason why if you’re not a member of Brand Builders Group, you’re missing out on A LOT. The amount of money you must invest to become one of our members is so minuscule, not only compared to what you’ll learn or earn, but it’s so small compared to the power of the network of the people you would meet.

If you learn nothing from us, if you never implemented anything from us, the ROI you would receive just from being in the room with the people who are at our events is tremendously powerful.

If you’re interested in joining a community of ultra-performers, book a Free Brand Call with one of our Personal Brand Strategists today!

3. Stand-Up Speed

The last element is something I call “stand up speed”.

Your stand-up speed is how fast you stand up after you get knocked down. 

How fast do you bounce back after you have failed? 

How fast do you make the next call after the last sales call rejected you? 

How fast do you post the next video after the last video flopped?

Those are all practical, physical, and external expressions of stand-up speed. But where stand up speed really starts is in your mind. 

It’s going, “How long are you going to let something negative affect you before moving on from it?”

There are things that happen every day that suck. We even have a leak in our new house. It was completely out of our control. We did nothing to deserve that, but things like that happen to us all the time.

Your stand-up speed is the amount of time that passes between when the negative thing happens where you go, “Oh, this sucks,” to, “All right, all I can do is control what I can and move on to the next thing.” 

For most people, their stand-up speed is so slow. We think the reason we’re not more successful in life is because we can’t go from 0 to 60. 

We think, “I would be successful in life if I could start a business in 90 days.” 

That’s not the speed that matters!

You can crawl like a turtle in that race and eventually win. It’s all about consistency!

The speed that matters when it comes to success is your stand-up speed. 

Having negative thoughts doesn’t mean you’re weak, you’re human for having those thoughts. 

But where your strength comes from, is realizing that those negative thoughts don’t serve you at all. There is nothing about having a negative thought that helps you achieve your goals.

Ultra-performers on the other hand, fail and forget.

That’s it!

To wrap up, the 3 elements of mental toughness are:

  1. Intensity = Magnitude
  2. The Power of Community
  3. Stand-Up Speed

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