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Triumph Over Excuses

None of us like to think that we make excuses, but we do.
One of my business partners, Dustin Hillis, defines excuses in this way: “Any reason you didn’t do what you said you do.”
I love that definition because it’s transparent, powerful, and most important of all, it’s inescapable.
It’s inescapable from accountability.
There’s no way to dodge it.
There’s no way to get around it.
There’s no way to bypass it.
There’s no way to circumvent it.
If you said you would do it and you didn’t get it done, then it’s on you.
And whatever your reason is for why it didn’t get done is your excuse.
It’s easy to hold others to that standard but we don’t like to hold ourselves to that standard.
When someone else didn’t get it done, it’s because they had some lame excuse.
But when we didn’t get it done it’s because…
“I didn’t have time.”
“I decided I didn’t really want to.”
“I need to wait until there is a better time.”
Or, the number one excuse of all is blaming others for failure.
Blaming others is a natural outlet because none of us like to admit when we’re making an excuse.
But what if instead of looking for a justifiable reason, a rationale explanation, or an acceptable excuse, we instead just spent that energy looking for a solution?
That’s what winners do. They find a way instead of an excuse.
To use Dustin’s definition, finding a way means “doing what you said you would do, no matter what.”
Finding a way means you double down on your effort to achieve the target despite the odds.
Finding a way means you get creative about organizing resources to make it work.
Finding a way means you refocus your energy into problem solving and solution finding instead of into excuse-making.
Most of all, finding a way means owning your results yourself.
It means making a decision that you are in charge, you are accountable, and you will not be stopped.
Finding a way means remaining determined to figure it out because failure is not an option for you and excuses are unacceptable.

5 Healthy Heart Transformations of that Result from Giving – Episode 212 of The Action Catalyst Podcast

Rory shares his own personal struggle as he learned the power of giving and the 5 transformations he went through that dramatically changed the way he views money, time, giving and more. The lessons in this episode will translate to how you spend your time, lead other people, how you feel about yourself, and even the ability to overcome your own psychology of procrastination when it comes to working out and exercising.

Show Highlights:

In theory, we all want to be generous. We want to be known as people who give. @rory_vaden

For many, there is a disconnect between wanting to be generous and actually being generous. @rory_vaden

When asked, “How much money do you need to feel happy?” for most, the answer is “it’s more than I have now.”@rory_vaden

Scarcity is always feeling that you don’t have enough. @rory_vaden

There is a payoff that comes from submitting to obedience. @rory_vaden

Sacrifice in the short term to gain in the long term. @rory_vaden

Submit to self-discipline temporarily for long-term payoff. @rory_vaden

There is nothing weak about obedience. @rory_vaden

Giving out of obedience creates a long-term payoff. @rory_vaden

The amount of the gift we receive is in direct proportion to how we handle that gift. @rory_vaden

Learning to give money creates freedom. @rory_vaden

Your ability to acquire more money is inversely proportionate to its power over you. @rory_vaden

The joy in the experience comes from seeing others receive. @rory_vaden

The Action Catalyst is a weekly podcast hosted by Rory Vaden of Southwestern Consulting every Wednesday. The show is regularly in the Top 25 of Business News Podcasts, has listeners from all around the world and shares “insights and inspiration to help you take action.” Each week Rory shares ideas on how to increase your self-discipline and make better use of your time to help you achieve your goals in life. He also interviews special expert guests and thought leaders. Subscribe on iTunes and please leave a rating and review!

What Leadership Really Is

It’s possible that you think of leadership completely wrong.

It’s possible that you don’t even accurately understand what leadership really is.

Because for whatever reason, we often think of the leader as the person who is elevated.

We think of the leader as the boss who should be feared and respected.

We think of the leader as the person in charge and the person who calls the shots.

And because we sometimes think about leadership in that way, then when by pursuit or circumstance we get designated as the leader, that’s how we think it should be.

We think we should be elevated.

We think we should be the boss.

We think we should call the shots.

But we are wrong.

Or that is at least an immature understanding of leadership.

Over the years at Southwestern Consulting we’ve had the opportunity to work with great leaders, coach great leaders, and we’ve been lucky to have been mentored directly by great leaders.

One of them, CEO of the Southwestern Family of Companies Henry Bedford, taught us early on that one of the jobs of the leader is to remove barriers from people on the front lines.

He taught us that leadership is not about having the fancy back corner office but that the important work is done on the front lines.

He taught us that leadership is not about having people working for you but about having people and a mission for whom it is worth working for.

In simple terms, he and other mature leaders like Ken Blanchard, have taught us that leadership is about service.

It’s not about being served; it’s about serving.

It’s not about being protected; it’s about protecting.

It’s not about being revered; it’s about revering.

But serving doesn’t mean you’re weak. And it doesn’t mean you just do whatever people want you to do.

It means you look out for the best interest of the team.

It means you protect the pursuit of the mission.

It means you strive to provide for the people in your care.

And it means you lay down and move beyond your own ego and dedicate yourself to elevating the status and survival of the collective.

In short, leadership means serving.

So if serving is beneath you, then perhaps leadership is beyond you.

3 Ways to Outperform Your Competition

There is a lot of value for any organization to be gained from being “best in class, #1, champion, or industry leader, etc.”

But with so much competition and so much universal availability of resources, how can you consistently rise above and outperform your competition or even just outperform your own potential?

Simple.

Regardless of whether you’re trying to beat someone else or just break your own personal records, it brings us back to 3 truths that remain timeless and relevant even in a world of constant change and technological advancement.

1. Work Longer – Work more hours than anyone else or than you ever have before. There is so much power in sheer volume. Don’t underestimate it. Find a way to take time from insignificant activities you’re engaging in to reallocate towards your goals that really matter. (Hint: if you’re watching the US average of 27 hours a week of television, start there!)

It’s also not just your own total personal hours (which should of course always be maximized in the direction of your key priorities) but that of your team as well. When you grow your trained staff, you’re growing the total number of hours being invested into the achievement of your mission.

2. Work Faster – Become more efficient. Stay more focused. And increase your sense of urgency to squeeze the ultimate value out of each second out of yourself and your team every single day. If you can eliminate distractions or unnecessary work from yourself and your team that will give you instant lift.

Also, as discussed in our most recent book Procrastinate on Purpose, “automation is to your time what compounding interest is to your money.” So, anything that can be automated, operationalized, or streamlined should be because over the long haul you will get ROTI Return on Time Invested. Most of all though it’s your own internal intention, focus, and discipline that needs to be mastered.

3. Work Smarter – There is such a thing as “a sharper axe.” So, it does make sense to be intelligent and strategic. For example, if you’re in sales, learn to master asking for referrals, prospect by vertical markets, use scripts and get a sales coach.

If you’re a small business owner learn the tools that will help you scale your business and generate leads.

If you’re busy at all, learn to multiply your time by spending time on things today that create more time tomorrow.

If you’re a leader, create the space you need to spend time developing your people. You also could get a leadership coach to shortcut your learning curve.

But never use working smarter as an excuse or justification for working less.

And never use the excuse that if you can’t work longer for some reason that you still can’t find a way to beat your best.

Because it’s not just about working smarter or working faster, or working longer.

When it comes to outperforming your potential, it’s always about a combination of all of the above.

Strengthening Client Relationships with Amanda Johns Vaden – Episode 210 of The Action Catalyst Podcast

Amanda Johns Vaden is a Founding Partner at Southwestern Consulting ™, which is an international, multi-million dollar sales consulting organization, which focuses on creating systems to increase performance. Amanda and Southwestern Consulting work with companies such as Wells Fargo, Keller Williams, DIRECTV and AFLAC just to name a few.

Amanda is a million dollar producer, Senior Consultant, Executive Coach and Keynote Speaker with Southwestern Consulting™. She speaks throughout the country to thousands of sales professionals every year in coordination with her upcoming books Selling to the Sexes: Everything You Need to Know About Selling to the Opposite Sex and 4-Dimensional Follow Up: How to Increase Client Retention and Develop Customer Loyalty.

She is a featured speaker for the Better Business Bureau, Business Journal and Chambers of Commerce all across the country. She is also the Founder of Southwestern Speakers, which is a full service speakers bureau that works with companies to help them find and source keynote speakers for their annual meetings and events. And lastly, she is Division Manager of the Success Starts Now! Conference series in which she responsible for recruiting, hiring, training and managing their full time sales force. As part of her ‘practitioner’s’ belief she remains active as a sales manager, personal producer and content developer.

Show Highlights:

Without trust you don’t have client relationships. @amandajohnsSWC

If there isn’t trust, you aren’t getting repeat business. @amandajohnsSWC

My best prospects are my best clients. @amandajohnsSWC

I don’t want them to think they’ve signed up for something that will go 100% perfect, because I know that it’s not. @amandajohnsSWC

When it doesn’t go perfect, I don’t want to have to make excuses for why it didn’t. @amandajohnsSWC

It’s healthy for your clients to know you on a human level, not just a vendor level. @amandajohnsSWC

It’s not lay it all out for the world but allowing people to get to know you. @amandajohnsSWC

Gifts are a sign of appreciation. @amandajohnsSWC

Whether you give me your business or not, I’m going to give you my time and attention. @amandajohnsSWC

Get in where you can get in, prove that you’re worth it and build from there. @amandajohnsSWC

 

The Action Catalyst is a weekly podcast hosted by Rory Vaden of Southwestern Consulting every Wednesday. The show is regularly in the Top 25 of Business News Podcasts, has listeners from all around the world and shares “insights and inspiration to help you take action.” Each week Rory shares ideas on how to increase your self-discipline and make better use of your time to help you achieve your goals in life. He also interviews special expert guests and thought leaders. Subscribe on iTunes and please leave a rating and review!

How to Immediately Increase Your Self Discipline

How to Immediately Increase Your Self Discipline

After delivering a keynote speaking presentation last week a man comes up to me and asks, “Rory what could I do immediately to increase my self-discipline?”

It’s a good question, and the best answer is pretty simple but before I share the answer with you it’s valuable to understand the context of the answer.

I think this particular man, and most people in general who might ask this question, are looking for a permanent solution.

They’re looking for something they can do once that will permanently improve their self-discipline.

But that is the wrong way of thinking about it.

Success in anything is almost never the result of doing things right one time.

Success is the byproduct of doing things right consistently over periods of time.

And you will never really be successful until you actually understand that.

But that doesn’t mean the answer isn’t powerful. The answer is powerful because it’s the same answer in every situation.

So in that way it is something you can learn to do once, and then if you can get yourself to repeat that one habit consistently over time, it will bring you the success you’re looking for.

(Which, by the way, is why our core business at Southwestern Consulting is 1 on 1 coaching because we know what people really need help with is not learning one time what they need to do but rather they need help with the accountability of actually getting themselves to do the thing consistently over a long period of time.)

So back to the issue at hand. How do you immediately increase your self-discipline?

Simple: you think longer term.

Anytime you evaluate a decision in the context of what feels good here and now, you’re going to always gravitate towards doing the easiest thing.

But anytime you evaluate a decision in the context of what is going to make tomorrow better, easier, and more fruitful then you’re willingness to endure sacrifice increases.

We often think that we don’t have “enough” discipline but that is inaccurate.

We have plenty of self discipline.

It’s just that self discipline becomes dormant in the absence of a dream.

So it’s not really a matter of increasing your self discipline as much as it’s a matter of activating it.

It’s already there.

As you get clear on what you want in the future, your energy activates for what you can endure right now.

If you’re not thinking about the impacts on your future, you default to what creates the best situation right now – which is usually indulgence.

It’s not a matter of how much willpower you have.

It’s a matter of how long is your perspective.

So the permanent solution that is immediately available to you for increasing your self discipline  is to think longer term.

But you can’t just do it once. You have to do that every time you’re confronted with a decision about whether or not to be disciplined.

Which is why we at Southwestern say “success is never owned; it is only rented – and the rent is due every day.”