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The #1 Greatest Secret Technique of World Championship Winning Speeches and Presenters

What if I told you there was one distinctive secret of world champion presentations that separates them from all others?

Well there most certainly is…

I don’t talk about it much anymore these days, but a big part of how I started my speaking career was by competing in the Toastmasters World Championship of Public Speaking.

It’s a contest where 25,000 contestants compete over 9 months for the chance to be called the World Champion of Public Speaking.

I joined Toastmasters in October 2005 when I was 22 years old and I saw the World Championship as a way to establish some credibility for myself in the world of professional speaking.

Over the next 2 years, I did 304 speeches for free, received over 2,200 evaluations, watched over 3,000 hours of film, read dozens of books and took dozens of courses in the art of speaking.

In August of 2006, I made it to the World Championships: the top 10 speakers in the world. That year though, I lost.

But in August of 2007, however, I made it back to the World Championship and that was the year that I…well I lost again but I lost higher!

As Jerry Seinfeld would say, I was “the #1 loser.” Because in 2007 I became the Toastmasters World Champion of Public Speaking First Runner Up. In other words, I came in second place in the world just after my 24th birthday.

But after all of that relentless study, I realized that there was 1 primary secret between the winning speeches and everyone else.

To this day, I’ve noticed the same to be true on the professional speaking circuit and in all of the presentations we see at various companies.

Here’s the secret…

Most people take a 9-minute speech and try to cram it into 7 minutes (the maximum amount of allowable time in a Toastmasters competition).

The champions take a 4-minute speech and they deliver it in 6.

Champions realize that less is more.

They allow time for pauses.

They allow time for laughter.

They allow time for spontaneous connection with the audience.

And that is true for any presenter – whether it’s a CEO at a company meeting, an entrepreneur at a pitch meeting to investors, a salesperson trying to demonstrate the benefits of a product to a prospect, or a professional speaker speaking to an audience.

You have to allow time for space and margin and connection.

It is one of the most challenging but important disciplines of professional speaking.

Most people can’t do it.

Most people instead try to say everything they know in the short amount of time they have alloted.

Don’t do that.

Be concise.

As Mark Twain once said, “brevity is the essence of wisdom.”

And remember as James C. Humes wrote…

There are 66 words in the Lord’s Prayer…most people can recite it.

There are 179 words in the 10 Commandments…most people know a few.

There are 282 words in the Gettysburg Address…most people would at least recognize it.

And then there are 26,911 words in the United States Government’s regulation on the sale of cabbage!

And nobody cares!

Less is more.

Southwestern Consulting’s Co-founder, Rory Vaden, on Fox and Friends – Procrastinate on Purpose: 5 Permissions to Multiply Your Time

This weekend, I had the opportunity to be a guest on Fox and Friends national morning show to discuss Southwestern Consulting’s new book, Procrastinate On Purpose: 5 Permissions to Multiply Your Time.

We all struggle with time management. Everything we’ve ever heard about time management is all logical – tips and tricks, tools and technology, calendars and checklists. But time management isn’t just logical anymore, it’s emotional.

Key Takeaways:

  • Our feelings of guilt, worry, and fear dictate how we spend our time as much as anything.
  • Throw everything off your calendar and make it fight its way back on.
  • Anytime you say “yes” to one thing, you are simultaneously saying “no” to something else.

Watch the full Fox and Friends interview above!

To see a free full 1 hour webinar on How to Multiply Your Time click here: www.ProcrastinateOnPurpose.com

Rory Vaden Tedx Talk: How to Multiply Time

 

Everything you know about time-management is wrong. In this challenging and counter-intuitive video, Self-Discipline Strategist and New York Times bestselling author Rory Vaden, shows you why you can’t solve today’s time-management challenges with yesterday’s time-management strategies. More importantly he explains why procrastinating on purpose is the key to being able to Multiply your time.

Self-Discipline Strategist Rory Vaden’s book Take the Stairs is a #1 Wall St Journal and #2 New York Times bestseller. Rory is also Co-Founder of Southwestern Consulting™, an 8-figure global consulting practice. His new book Procrastinate On Purpose: 5 Permissions to Multiply Your Time came out in January of 2015 and was an instant National Bestseller. Free 1 hour webinar on multiplying time at http://www.ProcrastinateOnPurpose.com .

This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at http://ted.com/tedx

Procrastinate on Purpose

 

Era 1 Time-Management thinking was about efficiency. It was predicated on the idea of doing things faster. And all things being equal, efficiency is good but there is a limitation to efficiency that gives it a point of diminishing returns as a time-management strategy.

No matter how efficient we are, in today’s day and age, there is always going to be more to do than we can ever get to. At one point in history the idea was to create  tips and tricks and tools and technology to help us get our to-do list done faster so we’d have margin or space left over.

But that’s an incomplete strategy today. Because we all carry computers in our pocket and we are all working as efficiently as ever before and we are still never caught up. That’s because at the end of today’s modern to-do list isn’t more margin; it’s another to-do list!

Era 2 Time-Management thinking was about prioritizing. Prioritizing time was about developing calendars and checklists to help us focus first on what matters most.

Prioritizing has been the pervasive paradigm of thinking in the world of productivity since 1989. We still refer to “prioritizing” as the cure-all for most of our time-management problems. And while prioritizing is still a highly valuable skill and as relevant as ever before, it too has a very substantial limitation that nobody ever talks about.

There is nothing about prioritizing that creates more time. All prioritizing does is put one thing in front of the other. It takes item #7 on your to-do list and bumps it up to #1. But it does nothing to help you get the other items on your to-do list completed and it does not create more time. Prioritizing is simply borrowing time from one activity to spend on another.

In the world today, a new type of thinker has emerged. They don’t manage their time and they don’t prioritize their time; they multiply their time.

Multipliers have figured out ways to actually create more time meanwhile everyone else is still living with the fallacy that time is finite. Welcome to Era 3 time-management thinking.

For details on how to Multiply Your Time, check out this free 1-hour webinar at http://www.ProcrastinateOnPurpose.com!

How to Fight Fair

Great relationships don’t come from the absence of conflict but for developing an agreeable pattern for how to resolve conflict.

Recently, I had the opportunity to share some of my “Rules of Relationship Conflict” on the News Channel 5 popular morning show  “Talk of the Town” (watch the live video here).

If you care about someone, then consider adopting these 5 rules as part of the way you communicate with them when you are trying to resolve a conflict:

Rule #1: Don’t yell. 

Adding emotion clouds the clarity of what actually happened. If the other person is yelling, it becomes especially important that you don’t raise your voice so as to prevent a natural escalation of competing interests.

Rule #2: Be open to the idea that you made a mistake even if you are sure you did not.

People rarely get upset for no reason, so there is a good chance that there is at least a kernel of truth to what they are saying.

Rule #3: Don’t speak in generalities of another person’s behavior; speak only to direct examples and instances of action. 

It’s hard for anyone to own up to a generalization and so you’ll likely just see his or her defensiveness activate. By isolating an instance of fact, everyone can quickly see where he or she was right and wrong.

Rule #4: Always work to be the first to apologize when any dispute arises.

Although the idea of waiting for the other person to apologize first seems vindicating, it’s actually a guaranteed sign of how you care more about being right than in coming to a reconciliation.

Rule #5: Focus on trying to discover what’s right, not who is right. 

When thinking about what happened, try to remove yourself from the situation and evaluate right and wrong based solely on the actions that took place regardless of which side you’re on. Treat it as if you are refereeing someone else’s game.

If we are fighting with someone, it means we both care about finding the best course of action and we both care about preserving the relationship. If we didn’t care about one another, then we would just ignore each other and leave.

The reason these 5 rules are important is because as long as they are in place, then no disagreement or conflict will ever shake the critical bedrock of knowing that the other person cares about you. As long as we know the other person cares about us, it will give us a common ground to work from as we try to unite two seemingly conflicted views.

 

Rory Vaden: Dealing with an apathetic employee

There are few things as frustrating as watching someone around you not live up to their potential. And harboring the angst and anxiety over someone else’s lack of performance can weigh very heavy on your heart.

These three behaviors will set you free of unnecessary stress and help bring peace to your situation.

Read the full article at Tennessean.com!