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The End of Ego

EGOEvery human is a compilation and expression of every person they’ve ever met.

We are shaped by one another.

We are connected to one another.

We are powered by one another.

Every thing that we do is enabled by someone else having done something before us that paved our way.

Every thing that we think has been informed by all the ideas and educations developed by our predecessors.

Every tool that we use was improved upon by generation after generation who came before us.

It thereby stands to reason that none of us can take sole credit for anything that we’ve done.

None of us are entirely individually responsible for any level of success we may have had.

None of us are so great that we created anything all on our own.

Therefore none of us should really boast.

Because no success happens in a vacuum.

And there is no such thing as “self-made.”

We are completely and utterly reliant and dependent upon those around us to achieve what we achieve.

Arrogance then is not an expression of confidence but of ignorance.

And ego is not only an expression of lack of awareness but also of ungratefulness.

If there is anything we have to be proud of, it’s the fact that we live in an amazing world, full of amazing people, who have created amazing things all around us usually through little to no fault of our own.

Where Happiness Comes From

Happiness

Pursuing happiness is not what brings happiness.

Pursuing service is what brings happiness.

When we pursue happiness we convince ourselves that if we had something else, did something else, or had something more then it would make us feel better.

But if stuff or experiences was what made people happy, then we all should be happy already because most of us already have plenty of stuff.

Serving though is what always fills us up.

Serving brings us joy.

Serving supplies meaning for our lives.

There is something magical about the exchange that takes place when we help other people.

Our connectedness to another human makes us happy.

Our usefulness to someone outside of us makes us happy.

Our contribution to something greater than ourselves makes us happy.

There is nothing like the feeling you get when you serve someone. When you pour into them and fill them up.

The irony is that in dedicating your time, your energy, and your resources to serving others, you gain in return that ever fleeting feeling that we are all endlessly in search of: happiness.

Improving Your Life Trajectory

Life Trajectory

Why is it that some people’s lives improve along a steady or linear growth curve while others improve exponentially?

It’s because the future success of your life is determined by the trajectory your choices set today.

Similar to the power of compounding interest with money, time also compounds our choices.

When we make good choices at a young age, consistently over a long period of time, it doesn’t create a linear improvement over someone who doesn’t but rather an exponential improvement.

Similarly when we make poor choices at a young age, consistently over a long period of time, it creates the possibility of an exponential decrease of future opportunities and an increase of challenges.

It doesn’t mean that we are ultimately doomed to our history and our past, but it does mean that our best chance for shaping the steepest inclined trajectory for a positive future is to start immediately.

Good choices begets good opportunities.

And making good choices again when presented with good opportunities yields even more drastically positive opportunities.

But it needs to happen now!

You need to start today.

Because the sooner you invest into your own personal development…

The sooner you increase your work ethic…

The sooner you improve your attitude…

The steeper and more positive the trajectory you set for your life.

But you are in control.

You are the one who makes the decisions.

You are the one who makes the choices.

And your best chance for big opportunities later is always exponentially increased by making good choices right now.

So make good choices today and multiply.

Victory of Victimhood with Preston Smiles – Episode 179 of The Action Catalyst Podcast

victimhood

Personal Development’s breakthrough power couple, Preston Smiles and Alexi Panos, have supported thousands of people who have dramatically changed their lives by participating in the various programs and workshops they teach all over the world, including their groundbreaking 12-week online training program The Bridge Method, and the popular workshop The Bridge Experience. As agents of change, passion and possibility, they both founded their own movements that inspire and empower people worldwide, including Preston’s Love Mob and Alexi’s non-profit E.P.I.C. Preston and Alexi’s trainings are action-oriented and address all learning styles while engaging the Mind, Body and Soul. They are insanely committed to leading others on this same path and inspiring people to step fully into their unique gifts. They have created a movement of transformation and have built a tribe of loyal fans around the globe who aren’t just inspired by their work, but empowered by it. Their previous books include Love Louder and 50 Ways to Yay!

Show Highlights:

  • Everything points to something outside of ourselves to complete us. @PrestonSmiles
  • It’s not a matter of becoming – It’s a matter of revealing. @PrestonSmiles
  • It’s less about the doing and more about the being. @PrestonSmiles
  • Without awareness, there is no choice. @PrestonSmiles
  • You cannot change a habit that you are not aware of. @PrestonSmiles
  • “Diminishers” are ways we sabotage our success right before the breakthrough. @PrestonSmiles
  • The moment we take 100% responsibility we gain our power back. @PrestonSmiles
  • How did I create, allow or perpetuate this situation? @PrestonSmiles
  • What you permit, you promote. @PrestonSmiles
  • Your brain is not programed for success; it is programed for survival. @rory_vaden
  • If I’m going to do something great, then I must do something different. @rory_vaden
  • The payoff of self-sabotage is comfort and conservation of energy. @rory_vaden
  • There is nothing about who you are that was designed to be mediocre. @rory_vaden
  • There is nothing about your past that has doomed you to a negative future. @rory_vaden
  • You are capable of a new, rich and powerful future. @rory_vaden
  • You were born not to be a victim, but for greatness. @rory_vaden

You can find out more about their revolutionary Bridge Method HERE.

The Action Catalyst is a weekly podcast hosted by Rory Vaden of Southwestern Consulting every Wednesday. The show is regularly in the Top 25 of Business News Podcasts, has listeners from all around the world and shares “insights and inspiration to help you take action.” Each week Rory shares ideas on how to increase your self-discipline and make better use of your time to help you achieve your goals in life. He also interviews special expert guests and thought leaders. Subscribe on iTunes and please leave a rating and review!

Fighting Off Thoughts of Fear

fear

For some reason I woke up today scared.

Scared I wasn’t going to hit my goals.

Scared that I wouldn’t amount to anything.

Scared that my life wouldn’t mean anything to anyone.

But then I remembered that while danger is sometimes real, fear is always a choice.

I remembered that fear is a figment of my own imagination.

I remembered that fear is just my creativity working in the wrong direction.

And that means that I can destroy fear; I can dissipate it.

Because fear isn’t real.

Fear is the technique the devil has to try and use on me to slow me down.

Because he knows I cannot be stopped.

He knows that I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

The devil knows that his only hope is to try psychological warfare to attack my mind.

But I won’t let him.

I choose to take control of my mind.

I choose to have powerful thoughts.

I choose to write a new future.

I do it because I know I can.

I do it because I know I’m meant to be somebody.

I do It because I know my life is going to count for other people.

So I erased my fear and wrote over it with a new rich and powerful future.

And now I’ll go out and work harder than I ever have before.

Because I’m no longer afraid.

How to Let Go of Feeling “Busy”

busy

“I’m SO busy.”

You hear it all the time.

In fact we hear it so much, we should all just assume that everyone is that way and we can all stop saying it.

Because there is a maximum level of busy.

There are only 168 hours in a week, and if every single hour is planned and occupied, then you’ve reached the maximum level of busy.

However, there is no maximum capacity to your mental toughness.

There is no maximum capacity to your peace of mind.

There is no maximum capacity for your ability to handle stress.

Which means that the mental capacity of what you can handle should far exceed the physical and finite time constraints of what you have available in your calendar.

Multipliers seem to have figured out that carrying stress isn’t a necessary prerequisite of having success.

Anxiety isn’t an automatic byproduct of achievement.

And busy isn’t a mandatory requirement of building greatness.

You don’t have to be stressed.

You don’t have to feel anxiety.

You don’t have to feel busy.

Those are all choices that you allow yourself to make.

Those are all emotions that you allow yourself to feel.

But you are bigger than your problems.

You are tougher than your challenges.

And you are stronger than your challenges.

So you can let those feelings die because they aren’t serving you.

You can stop telling yourself that “you’re so busy” because it’s not new information to you that your calendar is full.

And you can stop telling everyone how busy you are so that maybe we all can stop this invisible competition about who has the most going on.

Instead, all of us can move on to getting things done powerfully, productively, and peacefully.

All the while knowing that if we’re working as hard as we can, doing the best we know how to do with what we’ve been given, then no one – including ourselves – can ask us to do anything more.