It is amazing to me how vulnerable even long-term romantic relationships are at any given point.
I think too often we place an undue amount of credit on the amount of time we have had a relationship.
We assume that just because we have been with someone for a long time that our relationship is somehow more protected than that of new relationships.
But in fact regardless of how long anyone has been in a relationship, it can completely self-destruct in one mere moment of indiscretion.
And it is a sobering but important realization to know that there are other people out there that would love to be with your spouse or significant other.
Someone who would have the automatic advantage of newness, excitement, and mystery working in their favor should they ever attempt to engage with your significant other.
So then there is no such automatic protection granted to a relationship simply because of the factor of how long two people have been together.
Quite the contrary, as spouses all we really have is a head start compared to some other person.
Sure we have the advantage of previous commitments, shared history, and a trusted bond. And while those things can and often do count for a lot, they do not make our relationship 100% immune to intense emotions, bad circumstances, and poor choices.
So instead of taking our relationship for granted, and automatically assuming that our spouse will always be ours just because they have been, we have to instead always be working on our relationship in the way that brand-new lovers would.
We have to constantly be pursuing our significant other.
We have to be courting them.
We have to be romancing them.
We have to be chasing them.
We have to show them that we still want them and that we are willing to work to keep them.
Because all we really have is a head start.