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Facing Entrepreneurial Fears with Christy Wright – Episode 188 of The Action Catalyst Podcast

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Christy Wright, both entertaining and inspiring, presents messages that educate and give hope to audiences nationwide. As the creator of Business Boutique and through her podcast and sellout live events, Wright has equipped thousands of women to successfully run and grow a business so they can make money doing what they love. Wright is a Certified Business Coach and Ramsey Personality. Since joining Ramsey Solutions in 2009, she has spoken to audiences across the country at women’s conferences, national business conferences and Fortune 500 companies. Her new book, Business Boutique, releases April 2017.

Show Highlights: 

  • When people know what selling really is, they can sell with confidence. @ChristyBWright
  • When you’re meeting people’s needs and solving their problems, the sale is natural. @ChristyBWright
  • Many people don’t have sales simply because they aren’t asking. @ChristyBWright
  • It’s easy for us to look in the rearview mirror of our life instead of through the windshield. @ChristyBWright
  • The best way to shift guilt is to focus on wherever you are at the moment. @ChristyBWright
  • My mom didn’t teach me persistence, she lived it. @ChristyBWright
  • More is taught than caught. @DaveRamsey
  • You’re not harming your kids by working hard, you’re helping them. @ChristyBWright
  • The number one thing that will hold you back is fear. @ChristyBWright
  • Fear isn’t a sign you’re doing something bad, it’s a sign you’re doing something bold. @ChristyBWright
  • The antidote to fear is action. @ChristyBWright
  • You always take the next affordable step. @TheSharkDaymond

Let Christy know you were listing by tweeting her at: @ChristyBWright.

Connect with her online at christywright.com or facebook.com/OfficialChristyWright.

The Action Catalyst is a weekly podcast hosted by Rory Vaden of Southwestern Consulting every Wednesday. The show is regularly in the Top 25 of Business News Podcasts, has listeners from all around the world and shares “insights and inspiration to help you take action.” Each week Rory shares ideas on how to increase your self-discipline and make better use of your time to help you achieve your goals in life. He also interviews special expert guests and thought leaders. Subscribe on iTunes and please leave a rating and review!

Fighting Off Thoughts of Fear

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For some reason I woke up today scared.

Scared I wasn’t going to hit my goals.

Scared that I wouldn’t amount to anything.

Scared that my life wouldn’t mean anything to anyone.

But then I remembered that while danger is sometimes real, fear is always a choice.

I remembered that fear is a figment of my own imagination.

I remembered that fear is just my creativity working in the wrong direction.

And that means that I can destroy fear; I can dissipate it.

Because fear isn’t real.

Fear is the technique the devil has to try and use on me to slow me down.

Because he knows I cannot be stopped.

He knows that I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

The devil knows that his only hope is to try psychological warfare to attack my mind.

But I won’t let him.

I choose to take control of my mind.

I choose to have powerful thoughts.

I choose to write a new future.

I do it because I know I can.

I do it because I know I’m meant to be somebody.

I do It because I know my life is going to count for other people.

So I erased my fear and wrote over it with a new rich and powerful future.

And now I’ll go out and work harder than I ever have before.

Because I’m no longer afraid.

No More Fear of Loss

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Sometimes I worry that everything I’ve worked for will be taken away.

That somehow it will all just vanish into thin air.

It’s a painful thought because I know how hard I’ve worked to get it.

But then I remind myself that even if you took away everything I had…

You can’t take away my character.

You can’t take away my conviction.

You can’t take away my commitment.

You couldn’t stop me from becoming successful before and so there is no way I would ever allow myself to be stopped in the future.

If it all disappeared…

If it all was taken away..

If it all was stripped out right from under me…

Then I would just step back, take a breath, and get it all back again.

Because I am not the result of my accomplishments, my prizes or my possessions.

They are the result of me.

And it is the me that will never change.

It is the me that will never go away.

I am who I am because I’ve fought, and struggled, and invested into becoming the person I am today.

And nothing short of death can ever take that away.

Why You Aren’t Growing Other Leaders

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Most organizations are terrible at growing and developing new leaders; but they can’t figure out why.

It’s because their current leaders aren’t trained to be leaders. Typically their current leaders became leaders by being great performers.

And what got you here as a performer, won’t get you there as a leader.

Performers do great work.

But leaders help get other people to do great work.

That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do great work as a leader, or that you should do less work.

It just means that a large part of your new work is helping other people to do great work. A large part of your new role as a leader is developing other leaders.

And very often that means you letting go, giving up control, and allowing for other people to step up and help.

Yet if you’ve been a top performer who has become a leader, you will likely be plagued by challenging self-talk such as:

They won’t be able to do it as well as I can.

It’s just faster for me to do it myself.

I’m really the only person who knows how to do this.

No one else can really be trusted with this.

And even,

I don’t think anyone else is capable of figuring this out.

While those are very normal and natural thoughts they are, at their very core, just examples of leadership FEAR.

Remember FEAR stands for false evidence appearing real.

And those are fears because they are things that seem logical in your brain, yet they are powered by emotionally irrational thinking.

The surprising reality is that in most cases people will rise to the level of leadership you allow to be available to them.

People rise up.

People step up.

People figure it out.

People find a way.

So assuming you are surrounded by good people, you don’t have to hang onto everything yourself.

Give yourself the permission of short term imperfection and empower someone else to improve their skill set and complete more of the crucial tasks.

You’ll likely be impressed that they rise to the level of leadership you allow to be available to them.

Managing Stress, Guilt and Overwhelm with Carrie Wilkerson – Episode 165 of The Action Catalyst Podcast

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Carrie Wilkerson is a best-selling author, an international speaker, an award-winning podcaster, and a sought-after radio guest. Featured on CNN and Fox Business News and named by Forbes as a top small business influencer, she’s also consulted marketing and launch teams of Dr. John Maxwell, Zig Ziglar, Google small business and other influential business leaders on business strategies and current trends. However, Carrie mostly enjoys helping ordinary people lead extraordinary lives.

Carrie speaks from the experience of a former corporate clock puncher, high school teacher, direct sales representative, growth consultant, and business coach. She got her “big start” in high school bagging groceries for tips only on a military base and now she makes her living by giving tips to over 100,000 men and women as The Barefoot Executive ™. She can help you build the business you need so you can live the life you want by connecting the dots between your WHY and your DO.

Show Highlights:

  • When you physically and emotionally invest in opportunities, that’s when you become ‘lucky’. @CarrieWilkerson
  • Our ego insists that we be available. @CarrieWilkerson
  • Time management is not logical, it is emotional. @rory_vaden
  • I get to define what balance looks like for me. @CarrieWilkerson
  • Comparison will either defeat you or give you false pride. @CarrieWilkerson
  • When people judge you, they are putting you in the context of their own story. @rory_vaden
  • The invisible audience is sabotaging big moves we can make. @CarrieWilkerson
  • One person’s negatively plus our own fear creates the invisible audience. @rory_vaden
  • Define your own picture of success. @rory_vaden
  • We have to believe it in order to fulfil it. @CarrieWilkerson
  • So often the stress and fear we feel is a figment of our imagination. @rory_vaden
  • I will work as fast as I can and as slow as I have to. @rory_vaden

To find more infomation about Carrie and her book, The Barefoot Executive, visit: CarrieWilkerson.com

The Action Catalyst is a weekly podcast hosted by Rory Vaden of Southwestern Consulting every Wednesday. The show is regularly in the Top 25 of Business News Podcasts, has listeners from all around the world and shares “insights and inspiration to help you take action.” Each week Rory shares ideas on how to increase your self-discipline and make better use of your time to help you achieve your goals in life. He also interviews special expert guests and thought leaders. Subscribe on iTunes and please leave a rating and review!

How Fear Beats You Without You Even Knowing It

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Fear shades everything you look at.

When you have fear, it colors each opportunity you are presented with through a lens that makes the opportunity look different than what’s really there.

Fear causes you to “add to” the scenario, things that may not be all that likely to happen.

Fear causes you to run through a list of worst case outcomes.

Fear leads you focus on the negative things that are distant possibilities.

Fear is your creativity working in the wrong direction.

Therefore, fear makes you discount the potential of the positive possibility.

In our minds, we tell ourselves that we are being smart or prudent in evaluating or thinking through the worst case – and sometimes that’s true.

But often what is really happening is that we end up making a decision based not on what is actually there but based on what our fear adds to what is there.

Unlikely outcomes.

Worst case scenarios.

Creative destructions that we make up in our own minds.

This “Fear Filter” works just as a sieve. It strips out so many opportunities that could change our lives for the better just because they are unknown.

The Fear Filter catches and traps what could be good by coloring it with what could be bad.

And just as you might forget after a few hours that you have sunglasses on, over a long period of time you forget and don’t even realize how many wonderful opportunities you are abdicating from your life because they are passing through a Fear Filter that you have forgotten was even there.