Great relationships develop not from the absence of conflict, but from determining an agreeable pattern for how to resolve conflict. Defining the rules of engagement for how you “fight” with someone you care about is ultimately much more important than trying to never have a disagreement.

If you care about someone, then consider adopting these 10 rules as part of the way you communicate with them when you are trying to resolve a conflict…

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Rory Vaden has spent the past two years literally taking the stairs everywhere from the Empire State Building to the CN Tower in Toronto.

But he is not just doing this for his health. Vaden is trying to make a profound point that he hopes will change people’s lives.

“Taking the stairs is a mindset,” he said. “It’s a simple metaphor that represents choosing the hard right over the easy wrong.”

In his book titled Take the Stairs, Vaden shares seven key steps to achieving true success. But at the root of all of them is one thing – self discipline.

“When we indulge in spending on credit, eating whatever we want, and saying whatever we feel like. When we chose the escalators of the world, what happens is procrastination and indulgence become these creditors that charge us interest and make things worse in the long term,” Vaden said.

On top of his desk is a dream board, and beneath it is a calendar jam-packed with the activities and things that must be completed in order to make those dreams possible. He says taking the stairs helps you do more than avoid the bad. Those sacrifices will even help rearrange the outcome of your future…

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By Meridith Levinson

CIO — Everyone knows the fundamental reason why we procrastinate: We lack self-discipline. We simply don’t want to do the work we need to complete when we need to address it. So we delay the inevitable. We grab a snack, check our e-mail, find something else to do.

We know procrastination will only create more stress for us, yet we succumb to it anyway. Why is it so hard to ignore procrastination’s siren song?

Rory Vaden, co-founder of the training company Southwestern Consulting, studies the psychology of procrastination and the habits of successful, self-disciplined individuals. He believes that if people understood the true impact of procrastination and its psychological drivers, they might more easily overcome this counterproductive urge…

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Written by McKenna Grant

How often do you opt for an escalator over a flight of stairs? For many, this “escalator mentality” isn’t confined to getting from one floor to another.

After all, it’s tempting to look for a shortcut or an easy way out — especially when it comes to tough tasks such as reaching a goal weight or eliminating debt. But shortcuts are deceiving. They take a toll on self-discipline and don’t always take you where you want to go, warns Rory Vaden, author of Take the Stairs: 7 Steps to Achieving True Success. He offers advice on how to reach your goal the right way:

Weigh your decisions. Make it a habit to evaluate them. “Success is often not the result of our major decisions, but more deceptively it is the aggregate sum total of all our small and seemingly insignificant ones,” Vaden says…

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How to get more motivation

Some people seem to have been born with a self-discipline gene that brings success and happiness, while others don’t appear as lucky. But that kind of willpower isn’t something we come into the world with, says Rory Vaden, a self-discipline strategist and co-founder of international training company Southwestern Consulting.

Published: Monday, 19 Mar 2012
By: Rory Vaden
Author, “Take the Stairs”

GUEST AUTHOR BLOG: “The hidden form of procrastination that plagues CEOs, and ruins companies” by Rory Vaden author of Take the Stairs: 7 Steps to Achieving True Success.

Procrastination is the most expensive invisible cost in business today. A recent study of 10,000 U.S. employees polled, revealed that the average worker self-admitted to wasting 2.09 hours each day on non-job-related activities. Considering the average salaried employee makes $39,795, that means procrastination costs employers $10,396 per year – per employee.

If you’re a high-level executive or business owner, that number probably horrifies you. And it should.

But, let me ask you this: How much is your own procrastination costing you…

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The secret to self-discipline

By Robert Pagliarini