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What Do You Really Believe?

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It doesn’t much matter what we say we believe, our real beliefs are revealed by how we act.

We can lie with our words but we cannot lie with our actions. 

You don’t even have to tell people what you believe, because you can show them. 

And people watch what we do much more than they listen to what we say. 

So what do your actions tell people about who you are and what you believe?

And how congruent are the things you say you believe in alignment with the things you actually do?

It is a moment of truth, a sobering reality check, and a sometimes uneasy accountability when we are asked to reconcile what we say and what we do. 

In fact, my pastor once told me that if you want to know what someone really believes in, don’t even bother asking them. 

All you have to do is look at their calendar and their checkbook, because what we spend our time and our money on is what we believe in the most.

Greed, Giving, and Making Money Matter with Cole Hatter – Episode 159 of The Action Catalyst Podcast

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Cole is an entrepreneur, investor, award-winning speaker and founder of Thrive. Cole started his career investing in real estate and has progressed to investing in large funds, start-ups, and angel investing. He has been on stage speaking to audiences about investing/entrepreneurship around the world collectively for over 2,000 hours. Cole’s vision behind creating Thrive: Make Money Matter is to change the way businesses are run forever, creating a new breed of “For-Purpose Entrepreneurs” directing profitable businesses that focus on a local or global initiative.

Show Highlights:

  • What you convince yourself to be true about money will largely guide your relationship with money.  @rory_vaden
  • What you think about money will affect your ability to acquire it and manage it properly.  @rory_vaden
  • Greed is largely the result of thinking that you will find security and peace from having money. @rory_vaden
  • Greed is the rooted in the belief that money comes from taking from other people. @rory_vaden
  • Find all the bible verses Rory shares that that have to do with greed, generosity and money here.
  • Generosity is powered by abundance and by thinking generously about money.  @rory_vaden
  • Ferraris are great but feeding hungry kids is better.  @colehatter
  • I decided to make what I can do for others the purpose of business, not what I can do for myself. @colehatter
  • It’s no secret that some of the wealthiest people are infatuated with giving back because it is in our DNA to want to care for others. @colehatter
  • If you make your money matter you will find more reward personally than from anything else you could spend your money on. @colehatter
  • Giving isn’t so much about what you have or don’t have but a demonstration of your power over money. @rory_vaden

Thrive: Make Money Matter is the conference for entrepreneurs and business professionals who want to discover practical income-growing business strategies, create a positive impact in the world and leave a lasting legacy. Click here to get your ticket!

The Action Catalyst is a weekly podcast hosted by Rory Vaden of Southwestern Consulting™ every Wednesday. The show is regularly in the Top 25 of Business News Podcasts, has listeners from all around the world and shares “insights and inspiration to help you take action.” Each week Rory shares ideas on how to increase your self-discipline and make better use of your time to help you achieve your goals in life. He also interviews special expert guests and thought leaders. Subscribe on iTunes and please leave a rating and review!

Joanne Miller: Creating a Haven of Peace – Episode 153 of The Action Catalyst Podcast

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Joanne Miller is an artist, speaker and author with her newest book, Creating a Haven of Peace, released this month. She married Dan Miller in 1968 and together they run 48 days. Joanne and Dan are great examples of living a peaceful life and having a healthy marriage.

Show Highlights:

  • We live in a world so busy and stress producing – you need a place to go where you can escape the stressors that live outside your home. @48daysteam
  • Your home can and should be a sanctuary. @48daysteam
  • Peace in the home starts with Respect. @48daysteam
  • Difficult times in our lives can be learning experiences if you look at them that way and don’t let them define who you are. @48daysteam
  • We get so involved in the clutter in our lives that we don’t take the time to enjoy our homes. @48daysteam
  • Making time for each other is a key ingredient to a healthy marriage. @48daysteam
  • If you’re stressed, ask yourself, “when was the last time I went to church and exercised?” @rory_vaden
  • Comparison is the thief of joy and creator of mediocrity. @rory_vaden
  • It’s not about beating other people – There is no value in thinking “I’m going to beat somebody else.”  @rory_vaden
  • Our level of peace is direct reflection of how well we are in sync with the people around us. @rory_vaden
  • You don’t want to choose to be right, but to do right. @rory_vaden
  • Admitting wrong was not the same thing as admitting defeat. @rory_vaden

Click Here to learn more about Joanne, her books and for tips on how to create a haven of peace.

The Action Catalyst is a weekly podcast hosted by Rory Vaden of Southwestern Consulting™ every Wednesday. The show is regularly in the Top 25 of Business News Podcasts, has listeners from all around the world and shares “insights and inspiration to help you take action.” Each week Rory shares ideas on how to increase your self-discipline and make better use of your time to help you achieve your goals in life. He also interviews special expert guests and thought leaders. Subscribe on iTunes and please leave a rating and review!

How to Fight: 10 Rules of Relationship Conflict Resolution – Episode 151 of The Action Catalyst Podcast

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In this week’s episode of the Action Catalyst Podcast, Rory shares his recent run-in with anger and his realization that anger is an emotion that needs to be managed. So much of the problems we have today are related to people trying to get along with one another – and not getting it.

Listen in to learn about the mentality and mindset of dealing with conflict and creating resolution in your relationships that matter.

Show Highlights:

  • Anger is a dangerous form of indulgence. @rory_vaden
  • Anger is a natural emotion and emotions must be managed. @rory_vaden
  • One of the highest callings of mankind is to learn to manage our emotions and to channel them productively into useful, purposeful and reasonable action that forwards our collective progress. @rory_vaden
  • “Are you going to allow your emotions to manage you or are you going to be the kind of person who rises up, takes control, and manages your emotions to achieve great things?” @rory_vaden
  • relationships develop not from the absence of conflict but by determining an agreeable pattern for how to resolve the conflict. @rory_vaden
  • Become a master of your emotions. @rory_vaden
  • Yelling is destructive because it clouds our judgement and ability to assess what is and what is not. @rory_vaden
  • Always start and end the conversation by affirming that you care about the other person. @rory_vaden
  • Be open to the idea that you made a mistake even if you’re sure you did not. @rory_vaden
  • Don’t speak in generalities and absolutes. @rory_vaden
  • Be hard on the problem, easy on the person. @rory_vaden
  • Work to be the first to apologize. @rory_vaden
  • Focus on trying to discover what’s right not who is right. @rory_vaden
  • Exaggerated language is often proof of exaggerated understanding. @rory_vaden
  • Belittling a person always shifts the focus from resolving the actual problem. @rory_vaden
  • Remind yourself that the person you’re talking to cares about the relationship and finding the resolution. @rory_vaden
  • Often you’re on the same team even if you’re not on the same page. @rory_vaden
  • Never ask another person to fill a hole in your life only God can fill. @rory_vaden

 

The Action Catalyst show is a weekly podcast that Rory Vaden of Southwestern Consulting™ hosts every Wednesday, which is regularly in the Top 25 of Business News Podcasts and has listeners from all around the world. The show shares “insights and inspiration to help you take action”. Each week Rory shares ideas on how to increase your self-discipline and make better use of your time to help you achieve your goals in life. He also interviews one very special expert guest and thought leader every week. Subscribe on iTunes and please leave a rating and review!

Johnny Quinn: When Your Dreams Fall Apart – Episode 149 of The Action Catalyst Podcast

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Johnny Quinn is a professional speaker, former professional football player and  United States Olympian in the sport of bobsled. He spent time with the NFL’s Buffalo Bills, Green Bay Packers and Saskatchewan Roughriders of the CFL, and competed in the 2014 Winter Olympics in Sochi, Russia. Johnny travels the globe to inspire audiences by delivering thought-provoking and action-packed messages to businesses, schools and organizations. He is also the founder of The Athlete Watch, an online pro-active leadership course that helps student-athletes and their families search for scholarships.

Show Highlights:

  • What actions do you take in the face of broken dreams? @Rory_Vaden
  • Hearing someone tell me ‘I believe in you’ allowed me to believe I was going to come back even stronger. @JohnnyQuinnUSA
  • The new Journey to become a U.S Olympian allowed me to dream again – it set in motion a new dream. @JohnnyQuinnUSA
  • We are told ‘make your dream come true’ as if you’re only allowed to have one dream. @Rory_Vaden
  • During the Sochi Olympics, Johnny got stuck in my Olympic Village bathroom and had to break down the door. @JohnnyQuinnUSA
  • The attitude of ‘Never Give Up’ carried me from NFL to Olympic Bobsledding @JohnnyQuinnUSA
  • When the plan you laid out is broken, the way you respond in those moments matter so much. @Rory_Vaden
  • Take the Stairs – Perspective Principal of faith is my favorite because it covers how to respond when things go wrong. @Rory_Vaden
  • A huge part of becoming successful is having a plan for dealing with failure. @Rory_Vaden
  • 5 choices to dream big again in the midst of a broken dream:
    1. Think Long Term –  Complete the untold Story about how this seemingly negative event actually protected you from something worse. @Rory_Vaden
    2. Create the possibility that something better awaits. @Rory_Vaden
    3. Realize that everything you are going through is preparing you for the person you someday need to be. @Rory_Vaden
    4. Realize God is powerful enough that he could have had it go the other way. @Rory_Vaden
    5. John 15:5 ‘I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.’ @Rory_Vaden

To learn more about Johnny, Click Here!

The Action Catalyst show is a weekly podcast that Rory Vaden of Southwestern Consulting™ hosts every Wednesday, which is regularly in the Top 25 of Business News Podcasts and has listeners from all around the world. The show shares “insights and inspiration to help you take action”. Each week Rory shares ideas on how to increase your self-discipline and make better use of your time to help you achieve your goals in life. He also interviews one very special expert guest and thought leader every week. Subscribe on iTunes and please leave a rating and review!

The Pride Paradox

The Pride Paradox

It is in your darkest times that you are the most prayed for.

It is during the toughest moments in your life that you are the most cared for.

Of course it never feels that way in those moments, but it is actually true.

Your friends and family are never thinking about you more than when you are going through a challenging time in your life.

And if you are willing to be open about your challenges, your struggles, and your pain, then you are inviting people all around you to pray for you, care for you, and love for you.

But if you refuse to share your struggles with others, then you disallow them the privilege of caring for you in your biggest moments of need.

When you choose to be so private that you do not let anyone else in, you are choosing to carry the burden all by yourself.

It is pride that causes us to do that.

It is pride that causes us to think that we are strong enough to deal with things ourselves.

It is pride that causes us to fear what other people might think about us if they were to know our real weaknesses.

It is pride that prevents us from being willing to receive gifts from other people that can help our pain. Because it is pride that tells us we should be strong enough to solve it alone.

And so then it is the consequence of that pride that causes you to carry an unbearable weight when you do not allow others to help you through your struggles.

It is humility though that allows you to take down your guard to give other people a chance to know the real you.

It is humility that gives you the courage to let go of what other people think of you.

It is humility that reminds you that the people who mind don’t matter and the people who matter don’t mind.

And it is humility that opens up the door to allow other people to come into your life to help save you, restore you and build you back up.

So it is paradoxical, that through our strong willed pride that we become weak and that it is through our gentle and open humbleness that we become strong.

Because we are weak when we stand alone. But we are strong when we allow others to stand beside us in our pain.